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Lets talk male suicide with James' Place for Mental Health Awareness Week
To mark Mental Health Awareness Week, we asked Dan Morgan, Senior Community Engagement Officer at James’ Place to share his insights on how we help men in suicidal crisis:
Thanks to initiatives like This is Me and Mental Health Awareness Week, we are now a lot more comfortable in talking about mental health in the workplace. However, there is still a long way to go in normalising conversations about suicide and suicidal thoughts.
At James’ Place we save the lives of men in suicidal crisis. We are a charity offering free, life-saving treatment to suicidal men. Our professional therapists get quickly to the heart of a man’s suicidal crisis and help him solve it. Our first centre opened in June 2018 in Liverpool, and in 2022 we opened our second centre in Old Street near London.
Many people will experience suicidal thoughts in their lifetime. For most of us these thoughts will be fleeting, easily dismissed and often in response to a difficult situation or stressful event. The vast majority of people who experience thoughts of suicide do not go on to hurt themselves or end their life. However, for some people these thoughts will become repetitive, intrusive and overwhelming and they may begin to make plans to end their life.
There is often a misconception that suicide is the result of long-term mental illness but at James’ Place the men we see are usually in suicidal crisis due to a life event such as such as a relationship breakdown, financial problems or bereavement. There are often no outward signs that someone may be suicidal.
Marwan*, who works in the entertainment industry in London, was helped by James’ Place last year and said:
“I arrived at James' Place after being referred following months of experiencing suicidal thoughts and actively looking at ways of taking my own life in as painless a way possible. I was given an initial assessment where I felt I could be completely frank about the factors I thought led to this point, however trivial I had previously been told by others these were.”
“I was treated with respect, kindness and understanding throughout my 10-week course of talk therapy, and allowed to reach my comfort zone of being able to talk about why I wanted to end my life following my therapist creating an environment of trust and candour. This in turn unveiled to me other reasons I had never really considered, ranging from my childhood experiences to other sources of trauma that I just didn't realise were there, as well as helping me understand where my addictive tendencies towards work and substances came from.”
“Since leaving the course my quality of life has greatly improved; it is as if I have learned how to be happy. It has helped me to escape the constant guilt by teaching me that I'm allowed to be human, alongside recognising and removing myself from the environments that are bad for me.”
Recognising you need help
If you are experiencing suicidal thoughts or are worried that you may act on them you should reach out for help now.
Some things to look out for include:
- Thoughts such as ‘Everyone is fed up with me’, ‘No-one cares about me’, ‘I can’t see a way out of these problems’, ‘I want to die’.
- Feelings such as feeling sad, hopeless, numb, trapped, alone.
- Behaviours such as isolating yourself from people you care about, not looking after yourself, doing things that make you feel worse, searching for suicide methods online, putting a plan together to end your life.
- Physical sensations or symptoms such as disturbed sleep pattern, feeling slowed down and sluggish, rapid heart rate, breathlessness.
Worried about someone else?
We don’t underestimate how hard it can be to talk to someone if you are worried that they are having suicidal thoughts.
Please be assured that talking to someone about suicide won’t put the thought into their head or make them feel worse. We know that having that conversation with someone can be the first step to getting them the help they need.
If you are concerned that someone you care about is feeling hopeless and might be facing a suicidal crisis, the best thing to do is ask direct questions, listen to their answers and be ready to signpost them to help.
Suicidal men in London can self-refer or be referred to us by a professional including those working in health and community services, or by a friend, colleague or family member. Visit www.jamesplace.org.uk for more information.
24 hour support is available via the Samaritans on 116 123, text SHOUT to 85258, or from your local A&E department or walk-in centre.
Hub of Hope is a useful resource and will quickly signpost you to what is available in your area.
For employers in London
If you are interested in finding out more about the treatment we offer men in suicidal crisis we hold monthly open days at our centre on Bunhill Row near Old Street.
Email London@jamesplace.org.uk to find out more.
*Name changed to protect identity